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Ship of State

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Copyright © 2011, by Daniel Brenton. All Rights Reserved.

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    The ills of American society have been magnified by the vacuum left by the disintegration of the extended and nuclear families. What to do? Here’s a suggestion.

Borrowed Waders
” Yeah, I do know Dom DeLuise. Why do you ask?”

Start: I have a vision.

Now I don’t mean this in the sense of a Nostradamus-style prophecy, or even a concept of Buckminster Fuller-esque elegance, but an idea that captivates me enough that I want to share with you, and with the world at large.

I feel, in my own little way, that I am already doing what I’m about to propose here. But there are those with greater resources and greater wisdom who could do this far better and more effectively than I can hope to for many years to come.

Let’s begin.

Would You Like Responsibility With That?

The market crash of October 2008 and ensuing financial crisis have exposed the vulnerable underbelly of America plain for the world and even we in America to see. We can shake our heads and tisk-tisk to ourselves, but unfortunately this problem has come to rest at our own feet, and we will be stubbing our toes on it for some time to come.

Plainly, our vulnerability is our willingness to abdicate responsibility, or to attempt to fix blame for our actions on others, blame that is rightly ours.

This is a national sickness, maybe a sickness of the Western World, but it can be cured.

Think about this:

It’s fairly well understood that the housing loan collapse was due to not just people buying into loans that could turn on them at any moment and eat them alive, but by institutions (more people) who were eager to sell these loans, and an industry and regulatory body (whole bunches of even more people) that turned a blind eye to practices that pretty much guaranteed long-term failure.

What caused this?

  • A willingness to ignore facts that would get in the way of satisfying selfish, unreasoning needs;
  • A desire on a part of the loan industry to sell financial instruments that could easily push the buyer into default;
  • A level of negligence on the part of the loan industry that didn’t police itself for practices that would eventually decimate it.

Couldn’t all of this been avoided by applying a little common sense?

Do I need to answer that?

Din’t our mommas learn us nuthin?

This was, after all, what the fairy tale “The Emperor’s New Clothes” was about — seeing what was plainly in front of us.

Despite her faults, my mother used to read me fairy tales at bedtime. She couldn’t have been the only one.

The Visually Impaired Leading the Visually Impaired

In my opinion, the problems in our society, at least in America, and probably similarly in all western nations, are built on two things:

  1. The breakup of the extended family because of industrialization;
  2. The deterioration of the nuclear family in the aftermath of World War II, the presence of the technological babysitter called television, and the Baby Boom/Counterculture’s rejection of societal values without offering substantive new values to replace them.

I don’t reject some of the insight of the Counterculture. We were in a society rife with hypocrisy, and it was natural to reject what we saw as false. But unfortunately, we didn’t replace it with what was true.

We didn’t get rid of hypocrisy, we just replaced it with our own brand.

Nor am I saying that industrialization shouldn’t have happened. Living in harmony with the ecosystem is obviously necessary for our long-term survival, but “going back to The Garden” is a Utopian ideal.

Argue this if you will, but having lost a real “infrastructure” of mentoring, parenting, or leadership for probably sixty years, this is what our world has become.

Is it any surprise?

Crisis, Opportunity, and a Chinese Fish Proverb

    Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
              — Chinese Proverb, exact attribution unknown.

Simply, many of us, clearly an unfortunately influential majority, do not understand how to live successfully. We don’t know how to fish.

And, as many in the personal development corner of the blogosphere have pointed out, the current financial crisis is an opportunity to stand up on our own two feet and make a life for ourselves. It would appear, however, that most people A.) don’t know how to begin, B.) don’t even think they can, or C.) don’t want to try.

Group A just needs some guidance. Group B needs some encouragement, which is probably best done by example.

I don’t think anyone can help group C until they want to help themselves.

Would Someone Please Teach Us How To Fish?

A recent statistic tells us that a billion people now have internet access. Though not all knowledge available on the internet has integrity, there is much that does.

Many of us because of our family situation unfortunately only had television and media for our role models — characters in an endless stream of fictional programming with no basis in reality whatsoever.

What I would like to suggest is that there is now an opportunity for our entire world to have access to role models of real value. The truly successful of the world could use the internet as a stage to leave us the legacy of their wisdom, real people leaving a real legacy that can reshape our society, as leaders to the world on how to live.

They have the resources and the money. All they would need is to dedicate the time.

They would also have to dedicate their hearts. No strings.

(Yes, that’s right. I’m asking the successful of the world to consider offering this kind of service to the world at their own expense, out of the goodness of their hearts. I think, since most successful people must already understand the concept of service, this is an only slightly audacious proposal.)

I am not suggesting any government oversight for this.

I am not asking or even suggesting trade secrets or proprietary information. I’m just talking about day-to-day wisdom.

I am not speaking of just entrepreneurs. I am speaking of all categories and facets of human experience. The successful in every field.

How to be ethical.

How to make hard choices.

How to live with ourselves.

How to give a damn.

How to make our lives work.

And of course, all those little things, like balancing our checkbooks, how to have safe sex, how not to walk into a busy New York City street and get ourselves killed.

(And, hey … even how to say no to something we can’t afford.)

In other words, I’m talking about how to fish.

Virtually Available Role Models for Actual Humanity

Happily, there are some who are already taking steps in the direction. Naturally I think of Oprah Winfrey, and those who are in her circle. On a much smaller scale, but no less valid, are the efforts of many personal development writers; however, none of these individuals have the “traction” of respected celebrity or established presence on the world stage that I would ideally want to see in this role.

Virtual relationships — as in “internet relationships,” as vital as they can sometimes be — are not the whole answer, but we can’t turn back the clock to a time before the internet, and I doubt most of us would want to.

With mentoring and parenting less prevalent in the real world than it was decades ago, perhaps the virtual world can help fill this widening void until we learn the skills to find the right balance in living with our technology, and the willingness and strength to re-embrace our innate humanity.

 

Copyright © 2009, by Daniel Brenton. All Rights Reserved.

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